Resigning from a nanny position can be a challenging decision, especially if you’ve formed strong bonds with the family and children you care for. However, when it’s time to move on to new opportunities, it’s essential to handle your resignation with professionalism and grace. In this blog, we’ll explore how nannies can navigate the resignation process while respectfully requesting a reference from their current employer.

1. Choose the Right Time and Approach: When resigning from your nanny position, choose a time and approach that is respectful and considerate of the family’s needs and schedule. Schedule a private meeting with the parents to discuss your decision in person, if possible. Alternatively, if an in-person meeting is not feasible, consider scheduling a phone call or sending a written resignation letter.
2. Be Honest and Transparent: When discussing your resignation with the family, be honest and transparent about your reasons for leaving. Whether you’re pursuing new career opportunities, relocating, or facing personal circumstances that require you to step down, communicate your decision openly and respectfully. Express gratitude for the opportunity to work with the family and emphasize that your decision is not a reflection of dissatisfaction with the position.
3. Offer Ample Notice: Provide ample notice of your resignation to allow the family sufficient time to find a replacement nanny. The standard notice period for resigning from a nanny position is typically two to four weeks, but consider offering more time if possible, especially if you have a strong relationship with the family and want to facilitate a smooth transition for the children.
4. Express Willingness to Assist with Transition: During your resignation conversation, express your willingness to assist with the transition process and support the family in finding a suitable replacement nanny. Offer to help train and orientate the new nanny, provide guidance on the children’s routines and preferences, and answer any questions or concerns they may have about taking over the role.
5. Request a Reference: When resigning from your nanny position, it’s appropriate to request a reference from your current employer to support your future job applications. Express your appreciation for the opportunity to work with the family and ask if they would be willing to provide a positive reference for you. Be prepared to provide them with a copy of your resume and any other relevant information to assist them in writing the reference.
6. Follow Up in Writing: After your resignation conversation, follow up with a written resignation letter to formalize your decision and provide documentation for your records. In your letter, reiterate your gratitude for the opportunity to work with the family, confirm your last day of employment, and express your willingness to assist with the transition process. Thank them again for their understanding and support.

As a former nanny and the owner of The Nanny Hub I understand completely how resigning from a nanny position can be a bittersweet experience. However by handling the process with professionalism, honesty, and grace, you can maintain positive relationships with your current employer and leave on good terms. When resigning, choose the right time and approach, be honest and transparent about your reasons for leaving, offer ample notice and assistance with the transition, and respectfully request a reference for future job opportunities. By following these steps, you can navigate the resignation process with confidence and integrity, setting the stage for future success in your career as a nanny.